Are your BFFs really the best choice for the job of bridesmaid or Maid of Honour?
Easyweddings.co.uk advise to think twice about choosing your bridesmaids.
When it comes to choosing your bridesmaid and Maid of Honour, most of us know exactly – and instantly – who we’re going to have by our sides as we march down the aisle: our besties and sisters, usually. We don’t even need to think about it. But should we?
The answer is yes, absolutely yes. While the decision may be made quickly, it should not be made lightly. Your bridesmaid and Maid of Honour have important roles to play on your big day, and by choosing the right people for the part, you’re guaranteed a much smoother, enjoyable and, certainly, more memorable wedding day. So, what exactly does the bridesmaid and Maid of Honour have to do?
Everything. And anything! Despite what so many people believe, being in the bridal party is rarely a one-day job. Bridesmaids don’t just turn up on the day looking stunning, have fun, then go home. There is a hen’s night to be organised and dresses to be measured and fitted (and tried on several times before the wedding). Naturally, too, there are plenty of other wedding related jobs the bride may need help with in the lead-up to the wedding and, of course, on the day itself, your job is to ensure the bride gets help with anything she needs! Both roles come with great responsibility, and you should choose the people who fill these roles carefully.
Fabulous Fran from university may be super fun during a night out and she may be capable of making people cry with laughter during a speech, but can she be trusted to stay sober enough during the evening to deal with any last-minute emergencies? What about your big sister or little cousin? Many people will suggest picking family members for your bridal party, but this isn’t always a good idea. Yes, it may well be that your sister is the best woman for the job, but it depends on the circumstances and the answers to the flowing questions:
Have they supported your relationship?
First and foremost, your bridesmaids and Maid of Honour should always be people who have supported your relationship with spouse-to-be. If they’re giving a speech to toast your marriage, it should be genuine and from the heart, something that will be very difficult if they have never been supportive of your relationship, through thick and thin.
Are they responsible and trustworthy?
Your bridesmaids and Maid of Honour take on a lot of responsibility in the lead up to the wedding and, frankly, not everyone is up to the task. You must be able to implicitly trust your bridesmaids and that they’ll help you with whatever tasks you may need on the day and before it, whether that’s picking up an uncle from the airport or helping you with toilet duties when you can’t move in your wedding dress! Your faith in your bridesmaid and Maid of Honour should be absolute. If it’s not, you’ve probably picked the wrong people.
Would they be someone you’d ring with a problem?
Moral support in the lead up to the big day can be just as important as any duties and roles performed on the day itself. Your bridesmaid and Maid of Honour should be someone you can confide in and call upon at a moment’s notice. They should be the type of people that will keep you calm in the face of pre-wedding jitters. Too proud to admit you’re having pre-wedding jitters? Your bridesmaids and Maid of Honour should know you well enough to tell when something’s bothering you, even if you don’t say a thing!
For some people, picking bridesmaids and a Maid of Honour is the easiest thing in the world. For others, it can be the cause of great anguish trying to choose between too many candidates. The most important thing is that you pick the right person for you. Don’t be influenced by outside opinions or fear of upsetting anyone. Choose carefully, and choose the best woman (or man) for the job. You can’t go wrong. Good luck!
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